how to self-solemnize

So, you want to self-solemnize huh? I’ve got you covered!

First off, let’s define self-solemnization as the act of officiating your own wedding ceremony, without the need for a third-party officiant or religious leader. It can be a great option for those who want to elope or have a more intimate or non-traditional wedding ceremony. If you’re interested in self-solemnizing your wedding, here’s a step-by-step guide to help you get started.

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Step 1: Check the Local Laws

Before you start planning your self-solemnized wedding, it’s important to check the laws in the area you plan to elope. Self-solemnization is legal in some states in the United States, such as Colorado, California, and Pennsylvania, but it may not be legal in others. Check with your local county clerk or government office to ensure that self-solemnization is legal where you’re planning to elope, or hire a photographer or elopement planner familiar with the area and its marriage laws. (I can help – reach out to me here!)

Here’s a list of everywhere in United States where some form of self-solemnization is legal:

• California
• Colorado
• Illinois
• Kansas
• Maine
• Nevada
• Pennsylvania
• Washington, D.C.
• Wisconsin

Step 2: Plan Your Ceremony

Once you’ve confirmed that self-solemnization is legal in your area, it’s time to start planning your ceremony. You’ll need to decide on the format of your ceremony, including any readings, vows, or rituals that you want to include. You may want to consult with your partner and consider their opinions and preferences as well.

Step 3: Obtain a Marriage License

In most states, you’ll need to obtain a marriage license before your wedding ceremony. Check with your local government office for the requirements and application process for a marriage license. Some states may have a waiting period or require blood tests, so be sure to plan ahead.

Step 4: Practice Your Ceremony

Practice your ceremony ahead of time to ensure that you feel comfortable and confident officiating your own wedding. You may want to rehearse with your partner or a close friend to get feedback and make any necessary adjustments.

Step 5: Conduct Your Ceremony

On the day of your wedding, conduct your ceremony according to the plan you’ve created. Remember to speak clearly and confidently, and to pause for any readings or rituals. Don’t forget to sign your marriage license after the ceremony is complete.

Step 6: Celebrate Your Marriage

After your ceremony, it’s time to celebrate your marriage! Pop a bottle of bubbly! Whether you have a small gathering or a larger reception, take some time to enjoy the company of your loved ones and start your life together as a married couple.

a couple celebrating on their wedding day

All in all, self-solemnizing your wedding can be a great way to personalize your ceremony and create a meaningful and intimate experience for you and your partner. Be sure to check the laws where you plan to elope, plan your ceremony carefully, hire a dope photographer who can support you on your journey and capture incredible art of your day, and practice ahead of time to ensure that your ceremony is a success. You got this!

Hey there, fellow weirdos

How's it going? The name's Luke. I help non-traditional, spooky sexy free spirits like you craft your specially tailored, unforgettable elopement extravaganza – one where your love takes center stage and celebrates everything that makes you the incredible humans you are!

From the planning process through to your elopement, you're fully encouraged to be your most radiant and unconventional selves. (Because guess what? I also grew up as a weirdo and I get it, the world isn't always that kind to us. It's all about radical self-love around here!) If this sounds like your jam, I'd be thrilled to help you create an exhilirating elopement experience built around your unique magic. ✨

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